An American’s perspective on Meghan and Harry’s interview

I watched the full 2-hour interview last night done by Oprah with Meghan and Harry. While I did grow up on the American side of the pond, I do have friends and relatives in England. While most are pretty neutral on the Monarchy, a few are pretty negative. I myself am only a year younger than Diana would have been this year. Until her wedding, I really had never paid attention to the British royal family. But that changed after Diana came into the picture. I watched her wedding, was excited about her pregnancies, and then was heartbroken with her tragic death.

Of course, I followed all the gossip about her during this time period, along with that of her sister-in-law Fergie. It was unbelievable. And what struck me then was how little the “Firm” did to protect these young women. Fast forward nearly 40 years and history seemed to be repeating itself with Meghan Markle. I will state at this point that I had no idea who Meghan was. Never saw “Suits.” (A misconception outside the US is that she was famous. Not true) A lot of people said last night that Meghan was just doing another acting role last night. While she is very comfortable in front of the camera, more so than Harry, I don’t believe she was acting.

At this point here I want to point out a few things. Many people have said that Meghan should have done some research before marrying into the royal family. Oh my goodness! Diana’s marriage to Charles ended way back in the 90’s. I’m sure that Meghan knew the bare-boned details, but I’m guessing she was idealistic and in love and hopeful that the Firm has changed with the times. That’s like asking you to research your spouse’s parents’ divorce just to make sure history doesn’t repeat itself. That’s idiotic and stupid. Besides, there are so many versions out there, so who do you believe?

One of the points made last night by Harry was that the press and the palace seem to have a strange symbiotic relationship. They keep their mouths zipped when false stories are published that in some backwards way actually serve to further perpetuate the image they want to portray of the individual in question. Case in point – did they even make an attempt to correct the story about Meghan causing Kate to cry after some little row having to do with the bridesmaid’s dresses? No, of course not. It didn’t serve their purposes because the Firm seemingly wanted to throw fuel on the fire and continue to disparage Meghan.

I do believe Meghan and Harry when they stated that there was concern (by someone inside the Palace) about how dark Archie’s skin might be. My husband is Asian and my mom said similar remarks. They’re called microaggressions. While on the surface the person committing the microaggression claims not to be racist, they’re very good at disguising it. I’m guessing a lot of this went on with Meghan and Harry. Little jabs here and there build up. They’re very subtle but they hurt just as much as outright racism.

The final takeaway from the interview was the discussion about Meghan’s mental health. I totally get this and DO NOT BLAME Meghan saying that she knew what she was getting into. NO SHE DID NOT! Nor did Harry. Harry was born into the royal family. Things were different for him. When I moved to Colorado 14 years ago I imagined a life different than I have now. I’m sure Meghan was in the same boat when she married Harry. She had a vision but it didn’t pan out. She spoke up but God forbid a royal family member has a mental health issue. Same thing happened with Diana. Just sweep it under the rug.

In regards to the criticisms being made that this is airing dirty laundry. OMG! Stop it. Yes, Harry and Meghan want to be private people but they’re tired of the continued BS. The royal family are not untouchables. From my understanding the Queen already knew about their exit plan before it was announced a year ago. Throughout the interview Harry and Meghan made it clear that they still loved Harry’s grandmother and facetimed with her (how cute is that image?) The reality is, however, that there are people in the Firm who are influencing the choices of the Queen. I’m not going to comment on the security and financial details of their exit. Instead, I am hopeful that the two will lives a happy life here and maybe with the passage of time, Harry will be able to repair his relationship with his brother and dad.